Are You Struggling to Forgive?
Finding Forgiveness When You’ve Been Hurt
If there is one thing that Christ instructed us to do that goes against every fiber of our Adamic nature… it is forgiving those who have hurt us.
The enemy often twists the spiritual law of forgiveness that Christ proclaimed in His sermon on the mount. He prefers you in chains. Satan wants you to walk in unforgiveness because he knows that forgiveness sets you free.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”—Matthew 6:14-15
Satan wants you to believe that God will not deal with the evil in the world. The enemy wants you to hurt more than the person who caused the pain.
As a result, he whispers lies about God’s just character and merciful love. Satan wants you to step over the line and decide how wrongs should be handled. Instead, we can kneel at the foot of the cross, leave it all there in exchange for freedom.
The problem with unforgiveness, which the enemy wants to keep hidden, is that it is a bitter root that produces more pain in our body and soul the longer it goes unexposed.
As a Believer, you are called to forgive others, even when it’s hard. Why? Because you belong to the Lord, your body is not your own. Because when you forgive, there is a release of the heavy burden you weren’t meant to bare.
Now, we want to make something very clear. Your decision to forgive another who has hurt you does not mean that their actions were justified. In fact, God often deals with them once we move out of the way.
“Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord.”—Romans 12:19
Forgiveness is a choice, and we want to support you through it so you can walk in victory!
How to Forgive When You’ve Been Hurt
Step 1: Start by praying. Praying for a heart to forgive will be a process of repenting of the belief that your unforgiveness makes their wrong right. It’s a process of asking God to give you a heart of compassion and strength. And, as difficult as it may be, the process involves praying for the person who has hurt you.
At that point, choose to trust God’s just character and promise in Romans 12:19. In whatever way this justice is dealt by God, it will be what is right.
“… because He has appointed a day on which He will judge the world in righteousness by the Man whom He has ordained. He has given assurance of this to all by raising Him from the dead.’”—Acts 17:31
Step 2: Check out the resources below. We understand that dealing with unforgiveness is one of the hardest aspects of the Christian faith. We want to encourage and support you through this journey. That’s why we’ve developed resources for you to use during your personal time.
Use them as a springboard into your study and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you while you read them so that you can begin breaking the chains of unforgiveness in your life and walk in freedom!
Step 3: Meditate on and declare God’s Word. When we begin declaring God’s Word over our situation there will be a shift in the spiritual realm. Over time, the chains of unforgiveness begin to break and you are freed from your struggle.
We encourage you to find verses that speak directly to your issue, write them down, place them in areas where you will see them throughout your day. Because unforgiveness is a bitter root to so many other struggles, it will take time to dig it up. But with each verse declared, you are one step closer to exposing the lie and breaking free.
Below, you will find verses you can use in this step.
Resources to Help Walk in Forgiveness When You’ve Been Hurt
- Forgiveness | How to Love After Infidelity in Marriage
Infidelity can sneak into the unlikeliest of marriages. Even the strongest of couples can be vulnerable to temptation. If your marriage has suffered from an unfaithful spouse, you are not alone. According to one survey with just under 200 responses, more than 50% of the couples have battled the carnage of infidelity, yet many of them are able to stay together. Read the Full Article Here…
- Walking in Freedom | The Key to Forgiveness
Forgiveness is such an important key to walking in freedom as a born-again Believer in Christ. I think most of us understand this in theory, but many times we do not actually apply the principle as fact. Read the Full Article Here…
- LIVE FREE! In Marriage… How to Forgive When You’ve Been Hurt in Marriage
Marriage is… intimate and rewarding, but it can be challenging. It is a partnership with times of disagreements that may lead to making the choice to love the sometimes unlovable. Read the Full Article Here…
- 5 Ways to Break Free from Spiritual Bondage | Being a Doer of the Word
Do you feel that the devil has a hold on your life in some way? Is there a struggle in your life that seems to repeat itself over and over again? You could be dealing with spiritual bondage It’s time to break free by using the power of God and by being a doer of the Word. Read the Full Article Here…
Words of Encouragement
Here is a list of Bible verses for you to meditate on and to declare today…
- “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.”—Mark 11:25
- “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”—Ephesians 4:31-32
- “Then Peter came to Him and said, ‘Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.’”—Matthew 18:21-22
- “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”—James 1:19-20
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We will provide you with additional resources and support as you continue your journey of breaking the hold of unforgiveness over your life.
Remember, Jesus said you were free, so claim this identity and inheritance today! Cancel the assignment of unforgiveness in your life.
I pray hope, peace, and love are released in your life. I speak, “Shalom, Shalom,” over you.
- “Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.”—John 8:36
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