Are You Struggling with Others Not Forgiving You?
What to Do When Others Are Slow to Forgive
A challenging part of the Christian walk is to pray for those who curse you. It is not natural for us to pray for those who come against us in some way, especially when they are slow to forgive.
You see, if you’ve been reconciled to God and know you are forgiven, the enemy moves on to attack you through someone else. Often Satan will do this by provoking another to be unforgiving towards you.
There is one way you can fight against these fiery darts of the enemy, and that is through intercessory prayer. The enemy uses spirits such as jealousy and unforgiveness towards you to block a relationship being formed because it is then that reconciliation can take place.
This type of warfare is an attempt to block the ministry of Christ.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation, that is, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputing their trespasses to them, and has committed to us the word of reconciliation.”—2 Corinthians 5:17-19 (emphasis added)
In order to cut off this assignment of the enemy, you can bless those who curse you, according to Matthew 5:43-45…
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.” (emphasis added)
When you start to pray for a person you know is against you, there will be a lack of emotion at first—but keep praying! Compassion will come, and the Spirit will begin to reveal why that person has a heart of unforgiveness. This revelation will multiply your compassion.
We’ve often seen those who commit to intercessory prayer experience reconciliation. This is what the Apostle Paul was referring to in his letter to the Corinthians. It is a beautiful picture of Christ’s work being manifested!
- “And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.” –Matthew 21:22
- “…But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.”—James 1:6
How to Have Faith When Others Are Slow to Forgive
Step 1: Start by praying for the person. As mentioned earlier, this is not natural for us to pray for the other person. However, God calls His sons and daughters to a higher standard. Why? Because this sets you apart from the world. It reveals the justice and mercy of God. It displays His glory so that His Kingdom work is fulfilled.
The Lord told the prophet Isaiah that, “…My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways… For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts” (Isaiah 55:8, 9).
Through these prayers, as you set your mind on things above and have faith, the peace of God will come (Philippians 4:8).
Step 2: Check out the resources below. We understand that dealing with the attacks that come against you is never easy. You need encouragement and support. That’s why we’ve developed resources for you to use during your personal time. Use them as a springboard into your study and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you while you read them so that you can have faith as you wait for the peace and reconciliation of the Lord.
Step 3: Meditate on and declare God’s Word. We know praying for the other person is a powerful way to fight this battle. The next step is to declare God’s promises over them. Again, this is not something that comes naturally to our carnal minds, but as the Bible says, we can bless those who curse us.
Find 3 blessings within the Bible that you can declare over the other person’s life every day. An example is Numbers 6:24-26. Add his or her name to the declaration. God will transform their heart and yours.
Resources to Help You Have Faith When Others are Slow to Forgive
- How to Pray the Lord’s Prayer and Have What is Written in Heaven Manifest on Earth
How many times have you read, heard, recited, or prayed the Lord’s Prayer? If you are like many in the Church today, the answer is probably hundreds of times. You might even have the Lord’s Prayer framed in your house somewhere.
Now, let me ask you another question. Have you felt as if the Lord’s Prayer doesn’t go beyond the ceiling? You pray, but there is no deliverable received or manifestation seen. Read the Full Article Here…
- How to Pray God’s Promises
We all face challenges – challenges in relationships, challenges at work, and challenges in our families. But sometimes the most significant challenges are in our minds. The struggles we have in the physical realm are largely a manifestation of the challenges we face in the spiritual realm and also in our thought lives. Read the Full Article Here…
- What Is Intercessory Prayer?
In the simplest terms, intercessory prayer is coming before God in the Courts of Heaven, and praying on behalf of others. Christ is the ultimate intercessor, but when we are born-again, we then hold the authority and right to enter the Courts of Heaven and pray prayers of intercession. This right and authority comes with mountain-moving power and responsibility. Read the Full Article Here…
Words of Encouragement
Here is a list of Bible verses for you to meditate on and to declare today…
- “Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”—Luke 6:37
- “'Come now, and let us reason together,’ says the Lord, ‘Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are read like crimson, they shall be as wool.'”—Isaiah 1:18
- “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”—Ephesians 4:31-32
- “As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.”—Psalm 103:12
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We will provide you with additional resources and support as you continue your journey of praying for those who curse you.
Remember, even when the walk of faith is hard, you can do all things through Christ.
I pray hope, peace, and love are released in your life. I speak, “Shalom, Shalom,” over you.
- “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”—Philippians 4:13
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